If you or your children are experiencing domestic abuse, then know that you are not alone. Support is available to you. The definition of domestic abuse reaches beyond physical violence and can be an incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening, degrading and/or violent behaviour, including sexual violence. In the majority of cases it can be by a partner or ex-partner, but also by a family member or carer. It is very common.
Domestic abuse can include, but is not limited to, the following:
- Coercive control (a pattern of intimidation, degradation, isolation and control with the use or threat of physical or sexual violence)
- Psychological and/or emotional abuse
- Physical or sexual abuse
- Financial or economic abuse
- Harassment and stalking
- Online or digital abuse
You may not feel ready to share your experiences with someone else yet, but there are people who can offer you help and support when you are ready, and you can find resources online to help you decide what action to take.
The Domestic Abuse Commissioner is an independent voice that speaks on behalf of victims and survivors. A range of resources are listed on her website: www.domesticabusecommissioner.uk/for-survivors
If you are worried about your online activity being monitored, follow this link for a helpful guide on how to browse privately: www.valleyhouse.org.uk/domestic-abuse-coventry/online-safety-how-to-hide
You can contact our Neighbourhoods team on 0121 748 8100 if you need to talk to someone about your home situation. We take concerns of domestic abuse very seriously and we will work closely with you and other agencies to keep you safe. We take a victim centred approach in tackling abuse and will agree with you what action we will take. We won’t pressure you into something you don’t feel comfortable with.
You can go to any Boots Pharmacy and ‘ask for Ani’ – a phrase which all staff understand and will provide you with discreet support and access to help in a safe space. Your nearest branch is at the Fort Shopping Park, but you can find another here
Please remember: If you are at immediate risk, call 999. If you are scared that you might be overheard by the perpetrator, you can use the silent system. Dial 999, then instead of speaking to the operator, press 55. To find out more click here.
Are you worried about a friend, family member or neighbour?
You may recognise yourself as being on a path to becoming a perpetrator of domestic abuse. There are a range of resources also available for you, including a number of self-help guides. See www.respectphoneline.org.uk for more information.